Very seldom will a person give up on himself. He continues to have hope because he knows he has the potential for change. He tries again--not just to exist, but to bring about those changes in himself that will make life worth living. Yet people are very quick to give up on friends, and especially on their spouses, to declare them hopeless, and to either walk away or do nothing more than resign themselves to a bad situation. - from Notes On Love and Courage